Archive | October, 2011

Reflections #1 Choices, Friends and Commitment

30 Oct

Isn’t it funny how much freedom we really do have in the world? The choices that we make are the ones the define us. Consciously or not we chose to say things that can be with good intentions, but can be misinterpreted.

Take the “friends” category. How do you know when someone is truly a friend? A friend is someone who will talk to you and contact you just to say hello. Someone who wants to be near you and have the presence of you. There doesn’t have to be a purpose to the phone call or meeting. Just a simple, “hey I wanted to know how you were because I truly care about you.” That is all. There’s no being fake or forcing people to say things just because they want to know the gossip. If someone is genuine and truly cares about you, there will be conversations. What’s even better are genuine deep and thoughtful conversations about life, the world and state of affairs.

It sucks when you want the relationship to happen, but the other person will not put the effort. But like ABC says: during our early 20’s we want to be everyone’s friend and in our late 20’s we eventually have to weed out who our real friends are because we can’t and don’t have the energy or time to be a friend to everyone. We eventually have to pick out who deserves our time and effort. People do change even though you don’t want them to. A person that you met 15 years ago is not the same person now. Sometimes you want people to change. You care for them so much and want to be a part of their life so badly, but there’s something about them that isn’t right to you. No matter how much time and effort and heartache you put in, they will not change. No matter how much you tell them that you are there for them and you are willing to help them, they will not change. Change has to come from within. Todo con su tiempo. Quien decide cuando la rosa florece? You really can’t make people change. And perhaps its even you that has changed or needs to change. Your own change has to come from within because you really have to want it.

ABC quoted Erik Erikson’s philosophy in that during their 20’s and 30’s people want to commit. Buying a house, getting married, having a kid, choosing the correct career all define us and are also commitments. Its an inner urge to be want to commit. But is it what we should be doing? Should we be committing because that what our brain is telling us to do? And if you don’t commit does that make you a hippie with no sense of direction in life? And if you don’t commit are you still walking around with the urge and the desire to commit? It goes back to the freedom of choice. We have the power to make choices. There is not specific right or wrong answer. Our life is like a piece of clay and its up to us to mold that piece of clay into what we want it. Every move, every word, every action is shaping that piece of clay. Its up to us to chose how we are going to shape it.

ABC should be a preacher or something along those lines…


Top songs list.. 100?

23 Oct

I saw on several Bucket List websites that creating a list of the top 100 songs is something to put on a bucket list. Don’t mind if I do! The list below is a top 100 songs list from my I-tunes. It’s definitely missing some major ones that aren’t coming to mind right now, but here’s what I have in no particular order:

1. Are you Satisfied? – Marina and the Diamonds

*2. I am not a Robot- Marina and the Diamonds

3. You Oughta Know – Alanis Morissette

4. Te Quedo Grande La Yegua – Alicia Villareal

6. Te Parto el Alma – Amalia Mendoza

*7. Mucho Corazon – Amalia Mendoza

*8. Paloma Negra – Lola Beltran

9. A Me O- Andrea Echeverri

10. While My Guitar Gently Weeps- The Beatles

*11. A Day in the Life – The Beatles

*12. El Cofrecito – Beatriz Adriana

13. Esta Situacion – Beatriz Adriana

*14.Uh, Uh, Uh, Uh – Bebe

*15. The Story – Brandi Carslile

*16. Matenme Porque Me Muero- Caifanes

17. Cuentas Claras – Chelo

18. Hipnosis – Chetes

*19. Just Like Heaven – The Cure

20. Triste Cancion – El Tri

21. I Can’t Help Falling – Elvis Presley

22. Me Sale Risas – Enjambre

23. Guitarra Mia – The Ghetto Five (Quetzal)

*24. Bestia – Hello Seahorse

25. The Way I am – Ingrid Michaelson

26. Espacio Sideral – Jesse Y Joy

*27. Serenata Sin Lina – version Julieta Venegas

*28. El Triste – Jose Jose

29. Asi Fue – Juan Gabriel

*30. Me Van a Matar – Julieta Venegas

31. Fe – Julieta Venegas

32. Bueninvento- Julieta Venegas

33. Lento – Julieta Venegas

*34. Wonderwall – Oasis

35. Since U Been Gone – Kelly Clarkson

36. El Duelo – La Ley (original version)

37. Chicle – La Santa Cecilia

*38. Siempre Hace Frio – Linda Rondstant

39. El Tiempo Pasa- Antonio Aguilar

*40. Si Nos Dejan – Lola Beltran

41. Stalk U- Los Abandoned

42. Florecita Rockera – Aterciopelados

43. Rompecabezas – Aterciopelados

44. Pero Te Extrano – Lucha Villa

45. Pachuco – Maldita Vecindad

46. Eres Tu – Mariachi Reyna de Los Angeles

*47. Murio De Tristeza – Mariachi Reyna de Los Angeles

48. Tu Sonrisa – Mariachi Vargas

49. Cielito Lindo – Mariachi Vargas

50. Viva Veracruz – Mariachi Vargas

51. Violin Huapango – Mariachi Vargas

52. Pajarillo – Mariachi Vargas/Reyna de Los Angeles

53. Gracias a la Vida – Mercedes Sosa

54. Solo le Pido a Dios – Mercedes Sosa

55. Billie Jean – MJ

*56. Morena Mia – Miguel Bose

*57. Ella es Bonita – Natalia Lafourcade

58. Yo No Naci Para Amar – Juan Gabriel

*59. Tatu- Pastilla

60. Mortal- Pastilla

61. Yo No Soy Esa Mujer- Paulina Rubio

*62. Perdido – Pilar Diaz

63. Dear Mr. President – Pink

*64. Espiral – Porter

*65.  Migra- Quetzal

66. Mayahuel – Quetzal

67. Jarocho Elegua- Quetzal

68. Alimentate- Quetzal

69. National Anthem-Radiohead

*70. Paranoid Android- Radiohead

71. Sleep Now in the Fire- RATM

*72. Un Rinconcito del Cielo – Ramon Ayala

*73. Tu Recuerdo – Ricky Martin

74. We Belong Together – Richie Valens

*75. Cuando Dos Almas –

76. Me Gustas Mucho – Rocio Durcal

77. Stairway to Heaven- Rodrigo y Gabriela

78. Libertad- Ruby Castellanos

79. Amor Prohibido- Selena

80. Tus Desprecios- Selena

*81. Dreaming of You- Selena

*82. Como la Flor- Selena

83. Y Llegaste tu- Banda El Recodo

*84. Tu Carcel – Los Bukis

85. Dia Especial – Shakira

*86. No – Shakira

*87. Estoy Aqui- Shakira

88. Te Espero Sentada – Shakira

*89. I am A Rock- Simon and Garfunkle

*90. Ella Uso Mi Cabeza Como Revolver- Soda Estereo

91. C’est La Vie- The Studiofix

92. Buddy Holly- Weezer

93. Sintiendo Rara- Ximena Sarinana

*94. Luna- Zoe y Lo Blondo

*95. Estatico- Zurdok

*96. Changes- 2Pac

97. Quiet- Bjork

*98. God only knows- Beach Boys

*99. I Want To Hold Your Hand- The Beatles 

*100. No Me Destruyas- Zoe


* = Top 40

Bucket list

23 Oct

Skydiving started it all.
Did the overnight hike to the thermal waters.

I’ve flown by myself

recorded my own CD

Gone to a conference by myself

Been to Italy

Been to SF and Berkeley

Been to New York

Been to New Jersey

Been to Hawaii



been featured in the newspaper

I help my community everyday. Its my job

What’s next:

Bungee jumping

Mardi Gras


helicopter ride

hot air ballon ride



water rafting

create a scholarship fund

learn to play guitarron

learn to play trumpet

start business of dreams

Grandma’s tattoo

swim with the dolphins

watch a really scary movie

Make 1,000 paper cranes

Visit 3 major European countries (Spain, France, Germany)

sing my favorite song to an audience

roll down a grass hill while its raining

visit a waterfall

bury the hatchet with people I have issues with

visit Selena’s grave

step foot in South America

go to one of the major tennis matches (Wimbeldon, Australian, US or French Open)

figure out my favorite song

attend the Olympics

attend a national soccer game

I’ll keep updating as I keep thinking of things

12/15/11 update:

Have a Quincerañera squared for my 30th birthday party

Try another meat (current list: shark, Daffy Duck, fish, chicken, lamb, cow, rabbit, lobster, shrimp, pig, tripas, ceviche)- Maybe snake? Deer?

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23 Oct

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