Reflections #8- “Friends” – yet again

11 Jun

“F” you all who think the sole purpose in life is to get married and live happily ever after (too much Ruby influence in this thought!).  Don’t get me wrong: I do believe that life is much more memorable when you are in company of someone else. Yet time and time again I have been tempted to point to the quote “It’s better to be alone than in bad company.” FRIENDSHIPS that have left me scared. People are nice to me, but I am finding myself with my guard up constantly because I am just waiting for the low blow to come. I have too many “friends” that are laggers (I HATE laggers) or can’t reply to message or phone calls: quite simply they won’t make time in their lives for me the same way that I would for them. So like Fez from “That 70’s Show” would say, I tell them “good day!” and continue my life without them. No matter how many years of friendship are behind you both, its the present that counts.

Then there are the friends worth spending time with. The ones that make me smile for a whole day after I eat lunch with them, the ones that I joke around day in and out, the ones that look for you, the ones that say “let’s hang out”- and seriously mean it,  the ones that go through traumatic life changing experiences with you, the ones that can read your face along with the look in your eyes and are willing to confront you about it, the ones that let you borrow something without me having to ask for it first (when is the last time someone did that for me?), the ones that are willing to share top secret information and truly want you to keep that to your grave. I have said “I’m loyal!” in an alcohol related comment to a person I considered a “friend” back in 2009-2010. And then I would start laughing. What was I trying to prove to her? Of course I’m loyal! I’m dedicated to those that willing to put the TIME into people. Too bad I was barking up the wrong tree with that comment. But like Pumba and Timon say, “you have to put your behind in your past” and look at what is front of you.  What a year 2012 has already been in regards to friends! I should be counting my blessings because I have spent years figuring out who I can truly trust and count on and I feel like this year has allowed me to narrow down who is friend material.

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