Archive | August, 2013

6 Powerful Truths To Start telling Yourself

28 Aug

1.  “I do not have to settle.”

Oh, how I love your fierceness, your undying drive, the sheer wildcat intensity with which you slink through the jungle like a creature of passion – a passion that lights you up and that rises from the center of your calmest, deepest, most grounded self.

I so love it how you refuse to settle – for less than your best, for less than you deserve, for less than what it is you were made to be and to have and to do.

You won’t settle for the work that makes you a living, without also balancing in a life that’s worth living.  You won’t settle for the man or woman who keeps you warm at night, but who can’t see his or her way into the depths of your soul or the breadth of your heart.  You won’t settle for giving less than everything to your work, to your play, to your loves, to your life.

In fact, if there’s one thing you will settle into in this lifetime, it’s the belief that the greatest risk is never to risk at all.  And oh, how you’re willing to dare greatly – for passion, for connection, for the adventure of being alive.

I absolutely love it, you powerful, non-settling soul, you!

2.  “I have great reasons to trust myself and the universe.”

You’ve come a far way – from listening to the expectations and the outer shoutings of the crowds, to learning to listen to your own inner compass and your own inner voice.

You know now that the first person to check in with, always, is your deepest, truest self, and she has never let you down.  She knows when to say, “Yes please” and when to say “Heck no!”, when to lean in and when to let go.  She knows when to strike hard, when to back off, and when to slow down and breathe.

In every instant, she knows exactly what you need and exactly what to do.

And you’ve learned to trust her.

But you’ve learned to trust others too.  You know in whom to place your trust and how to let others in fully, deeply… completely.  You’ve learned it can be safe to open and let yourself be seen and heard and loved for the magnificent person you are.

Lastly, you’ve learned to trust in this crazy nest-of-a-universe that holds you and to fully rest in its inevitable care.  Storms will come in this lifetime, you know, but with time the rain and the rage and the shaking wind will subside into tranquility, and even the hardest of winters will soften into spring.

With everything inside you, without a fragment of doubt, you know this to be true.

Yes, I love the way that you’ve learned to trust – wholeheartedly, fiercely, deeply – in yourself, in others, and in the universe that holds you.

3.  “My weirdness is one of my greatest strengths.”

That’s right; you got it: You are powerful because you’re such an unrivalled weirdo.

I love all those weird little things about you – the way you snort when you laugh, the way you rock those glasses with style, and how you shake it out on the dance floor like no one else is judging you.

I love the way you show up in the world: unapologetically, eccentric-ly, wholly yourself, because who you are is the one and only YOU.

I love your individuality.  Please say you’ll never stop showing the world who YOU are.

4.  “I can continue to let my struggles open me, and not close me.”

On the days you were betrayed – not once, not twice, but again and again and again – you still vowed to keep your heart open anyway.

You were mistreated, but you learned to love others anyway.

Life sucked sometimes, but you didn’t let it suck the life out of you.

Instead of closing, you opened.

Instead of hardening, you softened.

And when life hit you hard, you chose not to die, but to let yourself be born again.

You’ve chosen love over hate, compassion over indifference, and transformation over ruin.  You are blossoming more and more every day, and I couldn’t be more proud of you.

5.  “I am still here learning and trying, even after all my failures.”

The truly beautiful thing about you is the way you never let your failures get you down – at least, not for long.

Remember that time you fell face down in the mud?

You came back stronger than before.  You remembered that, as the proverb goes, “Rome wasn’t built in a day,” and that, as Epictetus would say, “No great thing is created suddenly.”

You let your “failures” carve out your person like the insides of a canyon wall, creating something majestic and wondrous and breathtakingly beautiful.  Instead of succumbing, you let them forge you into a person of strength and of character, humility and grace.

You aren’t one to be stopped – oh no, not you.  You may have had failures in one sense of the word, but in another sense, you’ve always won.  You’ve won because you failed to give up and you failed to give in.  You kept rowing, reinventing, learning from your defeats and pushing harder each time.  Your ability to persevere astounds me, and you do it with grace every time.

You, my friend, are stronger than you know.

6.  “I am powerful simply because I am ALIVE right now.”

You, Sweet Honey Child, are worthy and valuable and mighty beyond measure simply because you were born into this world – simply because you breathe – simply because you are right here, right now.

You were IT from the very instant you were born into this weird, unfathomable, joyful and painful experience called “life”:  Worthy.  Valuable.  Magnificent.  Infinitely loved.

You were IT at your highest.  You were IT at your lowest.  You still are IT.  You are simply, purely, unquestionably, unconditionally, a ridiculously powerful human being.

It doesn’t matter who you are to others or whether you believe this to be true.  It doesn’t matter what you look like, where you live, or what you’ve done in the past.  It doesn’t matter what anybody else tells you (or what you tell yourself, for that matter).  Look me in the eyes, Wonder Woman/Superman.  You are the song in my heart, the whisper on my lips.  The reason life has meaning.

You are IT!

Heroes and Changes

26 Aug

When we are born as children, our heroes are our parents. Then as we get older our heroes become firefighters, policemen and doctors. Then our heroes become Superman, Batman, the Incredible Hulk, and the X Men. Then our heroes are rockstars, tv figures and so forth. Then in our adulthood we realize that our heroes are just ordinary people living their everyday lives, but with a special touch to them.


My teaching career was born in 2007. My first glimpse of my teacher heroes were these young, enthusiastic, fun, and dedicated teachers. Most were within the first 3 years of starting their own credentialed career. I observed and worked with these teachers as I finally earned my rite of passage into adulthood. Then I began to enter their classrooms as I was welcomed in as a sub. I was given an opportunity to become an un official colleague by working as a long term substitute teacher. What an honor and what joy to be working with my heroes especially when some of them were my mom’s coworkers, grew up less than a mile from my house and were close to my age. They were living the American dream of having a steady and stable career. And I was working with them.


Fast forward to 2013. My heroes are slowly moving on to other aspects of their lives and are no longer a  part of my work place. I understand that not everything lasts forever, but it is painful to see so much talent and those who were my heroes disappear from my everyday professional life. If you opened up a 2007-2008  yearbook, those were my heroes. Shoot even 2 years ago in 2011, quite a few of my heroes still remained. The passionate technology savvy 4th grade teacher who has a license plate that reads “Love to teach,” the strict and feisty 3rd grade teacher that had an activity filled classroom, the tough 6th grade teacher that didn’t allow anyone to mess with her, the 2nd grade teacher that always had the highest test scores and excellent classroom management, the 8th grade quirky and witty Asian math teacher who was simply awesome because lets just face it she’s Asian, the super performing arts oriented 4th grade teacher that brought so many music and dance programs,  and so forth…. (Sidenote: I’m not talking about the personal life of these teachers. I’m basing my thoughts solely as the professional life of these teachers).


These past few months I have been unable to process my emotions towards these teachers and how they are no longer a part of the community that I am a part of. My closest dearest friends remain in my community, but everyone else around has gone. Happy for them? Sadness? Anger? Disbelief? I didn’t even know how to act. Then we came back to work and those familiar faces were gone and replaced by new, younger faces. I’m definitely not mad at the new faces. Thats for sure. My head felt heavy, my breaths were shorter and my eyes were killing me. What the heck was wrong with me? Then finally the weekend arrived and I processed my thoughts. I missed these familiar faces so much that I didn’t know how to react to their absence. My mom always said that I didn’t react very well to changes in my life. Kinda like Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory. But we all know that change is a part of life and is happening all around us.


I also realized that its my turn to be a hero to someone else. I’m now the veterana that was at work in 2007 during year 2 of the school being open. I am the teacher that has experience under my belt and knows the way that the school runs. The newest member to my department keeps saying how amazing we are and how we are the “best colleagues” she has ever had. We’re strong this year and we intend to keep it that way. Life is a cycle and now life has changed for me to be a hero.

Linda Ronstadt

25 Aug

Linda Ronstadt has Parkinson’s disease and can no longer sing. In recent years, she had struggled to sing in general and now it has become official that she can no longer sing. I’m sad to hear this news because she has done the opposite of the elusive “crossover.” Most artists, like Mark Anthony and Ricky Martin, took years to prepare for a crossover into the English language market. When they finally did, it became cool to listen or be anything that had to do with being a Latino/a. Linda Ronstadt did the opposite. She became a famous pop/country singer in the English language and when she had a few Grammy’s and million records sold, she crossed over into the Spanish language market with her legendary mariachi CDs. Who does that? Crossever into the Spanish market? Its not really heard of even in 2013. Linda embraced her roots and crossed over with stunning success.

There is actually a family photo of my sister and myself dancing in front of a teevee with Linda Rondstadt on the screen. Her mariachi teevee special was constantly played in both the Spanish and English language teevee.

Here is Linda back in her English pop days

I really really this song that she recorded with her first band, The Stone Poneys

“Different Drum.” The string quartet really emphasizes the mood of the song.


Here is Linda in her famous mariachi days with “La Charreada.” Its so flawless.



20 Things No One Tells You About in Your 20s

23 Aug

Well said. I think all of them applied to me in the last 4 years.

1. You’ll be lonely

Chances are you just moved to a new city — whether you are familiar with it or not, it will be full of people you don’t know. When you are surrounded by this many people, it’s easy to feel lost and alone. It’s difficult to make new connections in a huge city. This adjustment period will hopefully be short lived.

2. You’ll be poor

Just because you got a job right out of college doesn’t mean you’re going to be rolling in the dough. Rent is f*cking expensive, so count on half or more of your paycheck being designated to your landlord. Put the thoughts of going out and partying every night out of your mind because your budget will not allow it. There are no meal plans in the real world, so get used to spending your hard earned money for necessities, such as food and toiletries.

3. You’ll be confused as f*ck

Your 20s are typically when you have your first real job and chances are you probably will hate it. You picked a major in college that you thought would prepare you for the job you thought you wanted, but after slaving away 9-5, you may come to the realization that this isn’t what you wanted. Now what? Don’t worry you’re most definitely not alone, as the majority of people in their 20s have no idea what career they want to pursue in life.

4. You’ll have your heart broken

Many people don’t realize what qualities they want in a partner at this age. They will use this time to try and figure out just who their ideal partner really is. As a result of this confusing time, the person you are currently in a relationship with may not be someone you want to pursue a future with. This is a difficult concept to grasp and can be heart-wrenching because as you realize what you want in life, you may have to let go of the person you thought you loved.

5. Your friends can change as you enter the real world

The time spent in your twenties can be the most influential in regards to your future. The people with whom you choose to surround yourself can, and often do, sway your behavior, sometimes preventing you from reaching your full potential. Trim the fat in your life and associate yourself with others who encourage you to succeed. Sometimes you just outgrow certain people. Don’t try to fix it, just accept it and move on.

6. The majority of the people you interact with are douchebags

Why is everyone so damn angry all the time? Maybe it’s the economy or maybe it’s their personal lives, but chances are the majority of people you talk to on a daily basis are dicks. People push through you on the walk to work with no regard for anyone but themselves, they ash their cigarettes completely oblivious to the fact that you are walking behind them and don’t bother apologizing or saying sorry.

7. Your career path will most likely change

Where you thought you would end up is vastly different from where you did end up. Your first job will be an eye-opening experience that will really show you what you want to do for the rest of your life. In college, you always dreamed about having your first job, but when you finally get that job, it’s nothing like you imagined.

8. Making new friends is f*cking difficult

As you grow up, you tend to experience things on your own and so the interaction with other people diminishes. You don’t have the same opportunities that college gave you. You are much busier at this time in your life, so making new friends isn’t always going to be on the top of your to-do list. There are so many new concerns and responsibilities attached to living in the real world.

9. You’ll never know if you’re exclusive, hooking up or full-blown dating

Are you exclusive? Are you dating? Are you casually hooking up? Are you friends with benefits? WHAT THE F*CKING F*CK? Welcome to the post grad world where dating is as confusing as ever. You won’t know where you stand with someone you are hooking up with 95% of the time. Good luck trying to define whatever “relationship” you are currently in.

10. You’ll realize money may actually buy happiness

This may sound cynical, but when all your friends are going out to dinners and to clubs and you’re home because you’re broke, you sure as hell aren’t going to be happy. Not having to worry about money or a budget brings a sense of ease to a person’s life. Maybe it doesn’t necessarily bring you happiness, but it does surely prevent you from being miserable. If you want to move out of your parents’ house and experience what freedom truly is, well you better believe that money is your ticket out of there.

11. You’re going to be in debt

Nothing comes cheap in the post grad world. You are going to be faced with expenses you didn’t even know existed. Guess who’s responsible for paying for these things? If you think it’s your parents, you guessed wrong, it’s you! Remember how badly you wanted to grow up? Well this is what you had to look forward to — bills, bills and more bills.

12. You will lose some of your friends

One day, your best friends are by your side and the next instance, they are nowhere to be found. This is common as you go through life. People experience change at different rates and slowly the person you once knew becomes a notion of the past.

13. Your metabolism will slow down, rapidly

The days of carefree living where you could have a bagel for breakfast, pizza for lunch and a cheeseburger for dinner are long gone. This is the time where most people experience a change with their metabolisms. People warn you about the freshman 15, but they don’t warn you about the post grad pounds you’re about to put on. Now it’s time to eat less and to work out more. You need to get into a healthy exercise regime now before you become complacent.

14. It’s not too late to reinvent yourself

The years you spend in your twenties are the most crucial to your development since this is the time you start to mold your future. The person you were in college can be your past if you just change your behaviors. Who you were back then does not have to be who you are now. You are in a new city surrounded by new people, so take advantage of this!

15. Dry spells are ever present in the real world

In college, all you had to do was throw back a few shots and hit up a frat party or a local bar and your opportunities were endless. You may think now that you are in a huge city, you will have even more opportunities, but honestly that couldn’t be further from the truth. It’s quite difficult to meet people in any city, especially those that you want to intimately pursue.

16. You have to put in effort, you can’t just get by

No more snoozing the alarm, no more skipping class and no more week-long benders. Welcome to the real world, people! You can’t just get by in the working world by resting on your laurels and putting the minimum effort in. In this economy, there will always be someone else equally as qualified as you for a position, so if you are slacking, your boss will not hesitate to fire you.

17. Blacking out cannot be a general state of mind

This was acceptable in college (not really, but everyone did it, so it was “okay”) but in the real world, it’s not a good look to have to be carried home from the bar by your friend as your eyes are rolled in the back on your head. Not remembering the events from the previous night is a dangerous and terrible idea. You are in an unfamiliar city, not your college bubble, it’s a risky world out there.

18. Your degree means sh*t

The only thing your degree is useful for in the real world is as a conversation starter. Sure your degree may be relevant to your career choice, but that’s probably not what landed you the job in the first place. Your personality and past experience will hook the person interviewing you, not a piece of paper.

19. Hangovers aren’t a figment of your imagination

Hangovers in college vs. hangovers in the real world are two vastly different things. In college, you could wake up, hit a bowl and eat a breakfast sandwich and immediately feel relief. In the real world, your hangover is much more likely to last for a solid 24 hours. Good luck trying to function at work the next day if you go out during the week, as your pounding headache will only increase throughout the day.

20. Your parents won’t always support your motives

The issue with a generation gap, especially in today’s times, is that your family may not always understand and support your dreams. Many people are realizing how miserable the typical 9-5 career can be and are leaving for the world of entrepreneurship. Hopefully your family knows you well enough to realize your potential is better suited elsewhere.

Why You Are Not Sleeping At Night

23 Aug

Nice! Good to know ……


Daily Stress Reduction Routine

Fitlifer, it’s more important then ever to take care of ourselves not only physically but on a mental level as well. Are you finding yourself stressed out easily?

It’s sometimes HARD to get out of your own way and actually take a break for a second. Our lives become so busy that it can be challenging to do anything relaxing for that matter.

The biggest way to beat down stress is to form a powerful habit that will change your emotions and stress built up around it.

Many of the clients we’ve transformed have benefited hugely from a significant drop in stress levels using the Alpha Reset and the juicing system! Remember, freeing your body from stress allows you to effortlessly burn body fat!

If you are having health related issues and need support, you may consider joining our community. Typical support looks like this.

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One of the fastest ways to relieve stress is to get in a natural rhythm. The body’s internal clock and natural wake/sleep biorhythm, is called the circadian rhythm.

Ready, get-set, sleep routine!

One of the biggest things that not only helps me unwind, but something we coach each of our private clients to do is the following:

At least 1 hour before climbing into bed, start this routine:

I personally attempt to be in bed by 9:30 most nights. I know, it sounds boring but when it comes to your health you have to make some priorities.

My routine starts at… generally. Unless I’m out celebrating or I’m on a date.


1)     I usually have a detoxifying tea like Yogi – liver detox. This type of tea usually has ginger, milk thistle and perhaps a little dandelion root.


2)     10 minutes of visualization (Think about everything I’m grateful for.) It’s really hard to be angry or upset when you are grateful.


3)      I take a cool Epson salt bath. Why cold? Your body has to cool down naturally when it sleeps so I like to coax it a long a little. If you really want to help step up your deep sleep and dreams, take a little liquid melatonin. (This is the kind I take)


4)     Magnesium is a great supplement that most people are deficient in that helps you get good sleep as well. (The stuff I like is Mago 7)


5)     Count 100 gratitude sheep… I’m grateful for my lunch date with my sister…I’m grateful for ______J … I’m grateful for the time I got to spend outside today… Zzzzzzz.

Adopt a stress reducing diet

One of the best things you can do to minimize stress is to lower your cortisol levels by changing your diet. The less inflamed your body the less stress and tension you will feel. We have a whole dietary plan as part of the Juicing System we offer at FitLife.TV. Have you ever felt angry for no reason what so ever? Many people experience this, and the choices you make daily play a huge part in this.

I’ve seen transformation student’s change right away when they start healing their bodies of chronic inflammation. It’s hard to imagine how good you will really feel once you commit and start the Alpha Reset.

5 Super Sleep Sups Stack

Here are some natural sleeping supplements that I’ve taken and you can take too.

1)     Magnesium

2)     Glutamine

3)     Melatonin

4)     1 Hour Break

I love getting a foot massage and if I have no one to give me one, I use a lacrosse ball. Sometimes a little mia fascia release goes a long way!

Herbs and Essential Oils For Sleep

Lavender 9 drops

Chamomile 2 drops

Orange 12 drops

Essential oils can be used using a cold air diffuser. IF you do not have a cold air diffuser put a couple of drops on a cotton towel under your pillow.


Ninja Hack? – Does your partner snore at night? Rub some thyme on his/her feet.

Essential oils are so cool! J Leave a comment below if you agree.

If you have Insomnia it may be caused by liver or bowel toxicity, poor heart function, negative memories and trauma, hormone imbalances, or underactive thyroid.

We have found that our juicing system has a core focus in getting your digestive system back on track. If you are interested in doing this, feel free to check out our membership website here.

7 Benefits of Spirulina

23 Aug

I take my spirulina pills everyday 🙂




Written By Shelley Davidescu, MFT

What is Spirulina?

Spirulina is a type of microscopic blue-green algae called cyanobacterium. It is said that the Aztecs gave it to their warriors for strength and endurance. For centuries, Spirulina (also called Manna in some cultures) has constituted an important part of the diet in many communities, for it is a true superfood.

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Spirulina is considered one of the most nutritious super-foods because it contains non-toxic vitamin A in the form of caratinoids, B vitamins, minerals, trace elements, antioxidants, chlorophyll, and phytonutrients. It is over 60% “complete” protein, which is easy to digest. Spirulina is considered a complete protein because it contains all of the 22 essential amino acids needed to make a protein complete.

The Health Benefits of Spirulina are:

1. Reduce fatigue

2. Improve digestion

3. Appetite Control

4. Support Liver and Kidneys

5. Reduce Inflammation

6. Nature’s Detoxifier-high chlorophyll content

7. Boosts Immune System

How do I take Spirulina?

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Spirulina can be added to fresh juices, smoothies, or simply to water. Since it is 100% pure powder, Spirulina will mix easily. You can consume it first thing in the morning or in-between meals; perhaps sometimes for a quick afternoon boost.

Personally, I have used Spirulina at different times throughout the day. I have found that on the busy mornings when I don’t have time to juice, I mix it with water and it helps regulate my blood sugar levels, which sets me up with tons of sustained energy throughout the day.  My personal best time to take Spirulina is right before I go to bed since I have noticed a dramatic difference in the levels of energy when I wake up. Give it a try and play around with it by adding it to fresh juices, smoothies, or simply add water. This nutrient-packed superfood is a powerful addition to any lifestyle.

Katy Perry vs. Sara Bareilles

22 Aug

I’m going to have my students compare the characteristics of two songs that sound alike. The most obvious example due to the current radio air play is Katy Perry’s “Roar” and Sara Bareilles’ “Brave.”

Listen to Sara Bereilles


then listen to Katy Perry


Bereilles’ song was released in April of 2013. Perry’s in August of 2013. As soon as the similarities were shown all over social media, Bereilles’ tweeted “all love everybody. all love.”  Both songs have a positive them. One of the members of the band fun. co-wrote “Brave” with Bereilles. Eww. I don’t like fun. and their wannabe Queen sounding voice and other ripped off songs (more on them later). However, Perry’s song has a lot of cliche lyrics like the “eye of the tiger” and you’re going to hear me “roar.” Perry’s video has over 17 million hits on youtube since the video was posted last week.

Then Taylor Swift invites Bareilles to her concert and they sing “Brave” together. Swift listens to it “hundreds and hundreds of times.”




Hmmm. I don’t even know that to say about both of these songs. Perry’s is obviously highly produced with your typical verse chorus super easily memorable lyrics. I get this song stuck in my head very easily. No doubt she is going for the homerun with this song. Bareilles’ version is awesome because she doesn’t have a stereotypical pop voice and doesn’t sound highly produced. It sounds more genuine. I’m not familiar with Bareilles’ previous work so I can’t say if she is straying from her usual style.