Archive | January, 2016

The 9 Most Common Regrets People Have at the End of Life

15 Jan

Ese David Aguacate Wolfe! Very scary to realize how out of balance some of our lives are. I’m guilty of about half of these:



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2. Not having been the best family member possible

The desire to have a fulfilling, perhaps even exciting, life is one that many of us share.

So perhaps it is a bit of a cruel twist of fate to consider that, invariably – no matter how successful one becomes, we all wind up with many regrets over the course of our lives, many of them related to things we didn’t do and areas of life that we’ve neglected.

While each of our lives are obviously different, there are a few common themes when it comes to end-of-life regrets. Here are nine of the most common regrets people mention when they reach the final stages of life.

1. Neglecting the people that matter to you

In life, we often meet people that intrigue and captivate us. But the mistake many of us make is not telling those people exactly how we feel.

Maybe we’re scared of how they’ll react. Maybe we think our emotions are silly.

Whatever the reason, not uttering “I love you” – or whatever it is one wishes to say – is a common regret people have at the end of their lives.

Take the time to let those you care about know how you feel. Yeah, life gets busy and it’s not always easy. But learning to communicate in relationships will help you live a more fulfilling life.

2. Not having been the best family member possible

The effect parents can have on their children might be surprising to some. But it shouldn’t be. Our parents – or other primary caregivers – in many ways have the largest impact on us during the formative years of our lives.

But that impact having been a negative one is a regret that many parents express on their deathbed.

Similarly, many people express regret over having not cared for other loved ones in their lives such as a spouse.

Family can be some of the closest people you have in your life – cherish them and remember to say ‘thank you’ once in a while.

3. Over-working

There are many reasons people put work before all other things in their lives. Maybe they’d like to make something grand of their lives.

Whatever the reason, putting work before family or your health can lead to everything from missing out on important aspects of your loved ones’ lives to depression and anxiety.

Working hard is important if you wish to achieve in life. But it’s not the only thing that matters.

In other words: you must work to live. You don’t have to live to work.

4. Playing it too safe

You dream of starting a Fortune 500 company but your economics teacher in high school, your parents and your partner all tell you everything’s been done so you settle for working underneath others for the rest of your life.

Or maybe your dreams are a bit closer to home and you simply want to tell that friend of yours how you feel.

Yeah, it’s important to be smart about the choices you make. But at the end of many peoples’ lives, they often say their fear of failure got in the way of them leading fulfilling lives.

Make a list of things you want to do in life; now’s the perfect time, it being the start of a new year. Try to knock a few of your goals off that list.

5. Failing to dream

Related to the last point, many people regret not pursuing their lifelong dreams for the sake of pleasing someone else. The bottom line is, those who don’t support your goals and ambitions for very little reason beyond “it’s too difficult” are not people you need to listen to.

If you know you can do something, set out to do it.

6. Not enjoying life enough


In our modern world, worry consumes us. We’ve got everything to worry about these days – the economy, our health, our safety.

But worry solves very little. If you can solve a problem, solve it – why waste your time worrying about what might happen if you don’t solve it? If you can’t solve the problem, what use will worrying serve?

If it can’t be solved by your positive efforts, it can’t be solved by your persistent negative energy spent worrying either.

7. Neglecting your health

The older you get, the more you realize that health is a gift. As your bad habits and poor decisions catch up to you in the later stages of your life, you realize just how much healthier you could’ve been had you been more selective about what you eat or gotten more sleep.

8. Not doing more for others

We spend much of our time doing things that benefit us. And we have to – it’s not like anyone else is going to put food on our tables.

But not helping others is a regret that many people mention at the end of their lives. It’s important to take the time to give back to the world in some way, whether it be through volunteer work or donating money to a charity you support.

9. Not doing something meaningful (to you) for a living

It’s almost an archetype of life – you’re young and you have a passion. But that passion takes a backseat to the six figure corporate job that has you secretly wanting to jump out of your office window every morning.

Many people wish they’d gone with something they enjoyed doing, something that provided payment other than the financial.

I hope these nine things that people commonly regret at the end of their lives will give you the push you need to make 2016  – and the rest of your life – an incredibly fulfilling one.


Community Orchestra

15 Jan

It still continues to be a dream of mine to not only have a community youth and adult (learning) maraiachi, but also a youth orchestra in my hood. LA is always one step ahead of the game:


Recognizing Auto Immune Disease

15 Jan

WOw is this article scary or what?  Auto immunity is caused by stress and may be a result of not having a balanced life. Stress also causes inflamation. Pues yo estoy bien inflada y estresada lol No but seriously what a scary wakeup call this article is providing.


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Written by: Greg Ashby

Have you ever wondered about autoimmunity? What is it, anyway?

Chances are that you know someone affected – maybe that person is YOU. The numbers of those suffering continue to increase, yet there is so much information out there, it can be hard to figure out where to start in order to feel well again (or maybe for the first time).

Autoimmunity is when the body attacks itself. The diagnosis (lupus, arthritis, MS, etc.) has to do with the part of the body affected by this self-attack.

In all of my research into this very complex subject, I have realized that the multiple autoimmune issues that so many people face each day have something in common: the person affected often gets lost in the maze of their diagnosis and their Light begins to diminish and disappear.

Currently, autoimmune illnesses are very common in the western world. Autoimmune illnesses range from asthma and allergies to endometriosis, fibromyalgia, some thyroid disorders, multiple sclerosis and more.


I’ve experienced a few. One of the main causes is stress, which contributes to inflammation in the body. Mona Lisa Schulz, M.D., PhD. and medical intuitive, describes autoimmune health problems as “immune panic disorders,” resulting from a stressed emotional system that communicates too-frequent alarm signals to the immune system.

According to Salynn Boyles, a researcher for an article published on WebMD in 2007, “…women with multiple sclerosis (MS) now appear to outnumber men with the disease by a ratio of four to one in the U.S., new research shows.”

From a Science Daily article published in 2008, “…you learn that Fibromyalgia may affect as much as 3-6 percent of the U.S. population. It is more common in women than in men, but the reasons for this difference are unclear.”

There are many schools of thought as to the root cause of disease, but one thing that the majority of medical professionals can agree on is that chronic (constant) inflammation in the body DOES create imbalance and DOES lead to big problems, autoimmune disease being a BIG player.

When it comes to the fact that primarily women are affected, there are still no definitive answers as to exactly WHY this happens.

Coming from a spiritual perspective, there is a great internal conflict between achievement and the call to stillness. During this time on our planet, there is an urgent need to experience more of the feminine and yin nature of yourself—to become more compassionate, to quiet yourself, to learn to listen with understanding, move more slowly and with greater consideration and to recognize and acknowledge your intuitive insights. On the other hand, many women are providing, caring for and raising their children, progressing in their careers, planning for retirement and making their mark in the world. With more and more feeling to achieve, you soon find yourself out of balance and disconnected with your world. There is a sacred place within you that has to be honored in order to bring forth physical health, spiritual health and awakening. As a result, the toll of being out of balance emotionally, spiritually and physically often results in a cellular attack – which manifests in disease, particularly that of the autoimmune nature. This forces you to slow down and to engage your Yin nature in order to survive. This also causes you to step back from the need to take care of everyone else and start to consider more carefully your own needs. This is a demand from the soul to create greater balance.

Creating balance is not an easy task. The house might end up being a mess a lot of the time. The kids might have to do more on their own. Partners might have to get used to assuming more responsibility at home. If no one picks up the slack, then there are some things that just will not get done, if you are choosing to be true to your inner calling for stillness.

I’ve analyzed autoimmune disease from all different angles and have tried to treat my own such disease from many angles. I’ve looked into gluten, environmental toxins and, of course, sugar.

But self-hatred is the biggest impediment to cradling ourselves. This self-hatred emerges from thinking you’re not adhering to the ideals set out for you.

Are you constantly putting yourself up against standards you can’t possibly meet, thinking you can be the ideal wife, mother, girlfriend, teacher, cook, church volunteer, corporate executive and activist? And subconsciously, maybe you’re hating yourself because you’re not “perfect.”

But you can come back from this and you can do it with self-love. You can or should see how key it is. You can do all the tests and elimination diets,  but, boil it all down and there is this little still voice in your head or heart that says it’s more than the gluten or the toxin or genetics. Right?

Could the stress of a unhealed trauma result in autoimmunity? Is it possible that you bring your emotional woundings forward from your emotional DNA? Absolutely! These emotions have to be dealt with before mending can take place.

Autoimmune diseases occur when the immune system is out of balance and since 70-80% of the immune system is situated in the gastrointestinal tract, a healthy diet is imperative. Without it, mending can not occur.

Remember that in order for you to take care of others, you MUST take good care of yourself. This is not optional, it’s necessary. And you’re worth it.

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